A Eurasian Affair 1.

It's Easter! And what do Catholics do when it is Easter Sunday? Besides praying; they feast! They eat and drink around a round table and share stories, joke around and a little gossip included. After 6 weeks Lent and going through the Holy week, Good Friday we finally enjoy ourselves. Easter is a time to laugh be jolly and have fun; not forgetting the resurrection of the Lord of course.

Having lunch with the aunts and uncles, always brings entertainment. A table of 9, at a Chinese restaurant, an 8-dishes lunch, feast! Prior to eating, stories from the elderly always come up, about whose aunt is whose daughter that is married to that uncle's brother which is your grandmother's sister which is my sister in-law. That's is one more thing about Eurasians, it is hard to marry one, especially you yourself is a Eurasian, because somehow or another we are all related*.

Next, looking at our lunch table, you'll see a true blend of Malaysia. We have a mix, of Chinese, Indians, Caucasian (look-alike) and Malay (look-alike). People that pass our table give a strange stare at us, surely at the back of their minds they are saying, "What are these people?". Oh well, we're a mix of the East and a little of the West, so we're Malaysians!

Furthermore, getting together over lunch, with people which you are (somehow) related to, and had all kinds of backgrounds, you'll find that the talking and chatting is longer than the eating. We spoke before the coming of the food came- we feasted, the food gone, we continued talking. Well, I guess that goes much for everyone's lunch date.

No doubt, it is very interesting when one can observe a typical Eurasian family at lunch or dinner. There's always a mix of faces and colours, always one (or a few) then can speak three or more languages (including multiple dialects of Chinese: Hakka, Teo Chew, Hokkien, Cantonese), never-retiring business man, man from the army, Church women and of course the youngest one. Next time, when you're in a Chinese restaurant at around a Catholic festival, lookout for this kind of table, you'll be surprised.

*This brings to my theory of that I (or any younger generation Eurasian person) shouldn't marry another Eurasian because somehow or another we are all related. Example, at lunch today, the Chinese 'aunty' with us was my father's godparents' daughter, which is related to my mom by her brother-in-law who is my mom's cousin; to make it more interesting, she is one of the first in Malaysia mix-marriage.

Of golf balls and mayonnaise jar.

This is an interesting e-mail forwarded to me.

When things in your life seem , almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his ...... class
And had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively
filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things - family,
children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions –
Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else --The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first --
The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.
'I'm glad you asked'.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend"

Values of Friendship.

Life, no matter how sweet or bitter it is, we must endure and stay resilient. In these experiences; there is just some things that in life we must always never take for granted. I learned that one thing that we must always treasure and appreciate is our friendship. Friendships may sound light, but the value, of pure friendship is rare and sometimes, it takes a lot of time to find it.

I have learned that my friends are not here forever. This is why, it is important to keep them close to your heart and appreciate every moment with them. Only with them, we will feel secure because we know that no matter what they will be here for us. Should they abandon us, we must never do so, it is because then one day they will know how much they mean to us.

Beneath the arrogance and condescending attitude, I need my friends. I need them because, in a way they are the ones, that keep me going, the people in my life. To this, I realize that without them I am rather lonely and a little sad.

It is not my insecurity that makes me feel this way, but it is the confidence that my friends give that make me that they are other people out there who are worth keeping; and to keep them is to treasure them. I have lost friends before, and yet they give me the second chance, this is why I believe that these is who I have to keep. Never before this, it has occurred to me that everyone here can be relied on or even trusted.

"Friends come in and out of your life"

True. But some are to be kept forever.

In fact, there are many ways that one can lose a friend, a breakup, a denial, an abandoning, through time and even through death. Though I haven't loss any friend through death, but through spirit I have. And because of this, I have learned to appreciate the people around me. It is a heartfelt feeling when you know your friend is there, but you can't get to see him or her anymore.

Never lose touch when someones trusts you, treasure every moment with them. Although I may never be the one to show gratitude, but I am striving and learning. I have learned now, that I need them, I need my friends to stay afloat in life.

I am sorry,

I should have known better;

but sometimes emotions take place.

I wish you all the best,

remember me when you make a name,

and when you see-

an opportunity,

go for it.

Theory

Here is a theory.

When one finds another person attractive and have an affection to them, and the opposite party has the same mutual feelings; but one of the parties would not admit that affection, he\she will try to avoid the liking party.

Example A likes B. B likes A. A approached B and told B about how A feels towards B. B understands the feelings, but denies that he\she likes A. So to continue denying B own's feelings, he\she will try to avoid A at all costs.